Some years ago I read an article explaining briefly what was that g0y men and even thinking that homoerotic relationships between heterosexual boys were more common than is supposed, it surprised me. Wow! This word remained pending entry in our LGBT Glossary until now, when the time comes, I have seen that the g0y issue needed more development and greater depth. In this post, you will find general information on the subject, its classification within sexual diversity, the ideas on which it is based, its main characteristics and, finally, my opinion concerning some quite controversial things that I have read. It is convenient to say that there may be g0ys that do not identify themselves or agree about everything you are going to read next.
The expression g0y (g-zero-y) appears around 2005 in the United States to name the man who, regardless of his sexual orientation (homo, hetero or bi), has erotic-affective relationships with men in which the anal sex is excluded, which extends to their wives, girlfriends or female sexual partners. Zero with the anus. The g0y phenomenon has had a great development in Brazil, where we have found groups, bars and private parties attended by couples and marriages, single men, and I suppose that also, some single women. Judging by the photos, they have a good time, it is like swinger encounters but in which the males have contact with each other.
Yeah, well. But what is this g0y?
Goy, g-zero-epsilon and the related terms of heterog0y, heteroflex, soft-bi and bromance could be categorized, in essence, as sexual behavior, and more specifically within homosexual behavior, since we are talking about erotic experiences with people of the same sex.
The classification of g0y
However, this taxonomy falls short to explain this phenomenon. We could characterize it as a kind of “paraphilical identification” because these people from their sexual tastes (philias) create a new identity that allows them to group, meet and claim themselves.
G0y would fit perfectly into androphilia, described, according to Wikipedia, as the aesthetic, affective and non-exclusive sexual attraction, towards the male; the desire and admiration for the manly aesthetically beautiful, good and virtuous, for men or masculinity; preserving its state of virility and maintaining a completely masculine behavior.
G0y also has a strong identity aspect, at the level, for example, of the Bears. The g0ys are a group, a collective, a social phenomenon that tends to be self-defined, which differs from gay people and, in general, from the LGBT + community with which they do not feel identified. I AM NOT gay, I AM g0y!
The g0y phenomenon could remain as a manifestation of the sexual flexibility of men, however on the reference websites we find a kind of “cultural aggregates” with which they claim their existence and the naturalness of their approaches.
The cultural aggregates of g0y
We understand as cultural aggregates all those ideas that exist before the emergence of the g0y phenomenon, which they have incorporated in their identity ideals and that base their place in the world. Next, we expose those that seem important to us without entering to value their correction.
For the g0y, in the sacred texts, there is no rejection of the erotic and affective relationships between men, only anal intercourse is condemned and prohibited (as we discussed extensively in our article on Leviticus). And not only this but in several passages of the bible, there is talk of homo-erotic friendships, for example, that of Jonathan and King David expressed in the famous sentence: “Your love was more wonderful to me than the love of women. ” Therefore, God does not disapprove of the g0ys and the different churches and faiths should accept them.
As we have been able to read on the g0y reference websites, they interpret that in classical Greece the erotic-affective relationships between men were normalized and that anal intercourse was not practiced frequently. With this, the g0ys endow millenary, romantic, and even ideal backgrounds to their approaches.
The g0y ideology is binary and exclusive, so masculinity is somewhat hermetic, not permeable to femininity. They appreciate the feminine but separate from the masculine. Virility is an ideal, a value that must be scrupulously respected, and is the area in which their erotic-affective relationships develop. They reject the effeminacy in the male, and the anal sex corrupts the manhood, of both the penetrator and the one who gives his ass, who behaves in a feminine way because he is the receiver of the penis. The g0y understand the affective and sexual relationship with another man as a fraternal friendship between equals, so the top and bottom roles imply the destruction of this equality since gay intercourse establishes a dominant and a dominated one.
According to the g0ys, anal sex is dangerous. The anus and rectum are the perfect environment for the development and spread of sexually transmitted diseases, and 95% of STDs are avoided if gay intercourse is avoided. The anus and the rectal canal are not genital organs, so they do not provide pleasure. Homosexual coitus only satisfies the top, and only provides pain and a minimum pleasant sensation to the bottom. Besides, gay people are obsessed with the ass, and we think that if there is no penetration, there is no real sex. Fucking the asshole is dirty, degrading and not masculine.
All these elements chosen on-demand, are specified in ideas, which sometimes become slogans, among which we highlight the following:
· Although they can be self-identified with the traditional labels, hetero, homo, and bi, they claim their overcoming, simply defining themselves as MEN.
· The homoerotic relationships of g0ys are not just sex, they go much further. Their relationship starts with the “bromance” (brother + romance), a fraternal and intimate bond, of trust and admiration, in which loyalty and fidelity are important values. The promiscuity is excluded and the goal is to live all the life with one bro, if possible.
· Sex arises naturally from trust and intimacy, which takes time.
· His quintessential sexual practice is Frot or Frottage, which consists of rubbing one penis with the other, “genital with genital, chest against chest, heart with heart.“. Jerk off, blowjob, petting, kisses, fighting, as well as any activity that does not focus on the anus and further inside, can also be part of their behavior.
· The fellatio is allowed and accepted, nevertheless, many g0ys do not suck it but they do not see inconvenience in which a man sucks the penis to them. Although there are no demands, and there should not have been, we have found that “If I have given you a blow job, you owe me one.”
· G0y is not a sexual orientation, but it is a masculine and natural behavior among men, which does not prevent, that can be had with women.
· The anus is not a vagina.
· Marriage is the one celebrated between man and woman. Although there are homosexual men in the groups, their goal is not to find a partner or to marry, but it is the deep and intimate friendship, a space of trust and absolute loyalty in which there can be sex or not.
· The g0y must have a healthy style, exercise and, maintain his body in conditions to get and keep his partner for life. You have to offer what you receive. Being healthy and being physically attractive is a reflection of male values, work, effort, perseverance, self-denial …
· Absolute rejection of femininity in man. Transvestism, behaviors, and, female attitudes are out.
· In some groups, homophobia is prohibited, however comments against what they call “gay lifestyle” are very negative and stereotyped.
G0y from outside
The g0y man is quite interesting as a sexually diverse phenomenon. On the one hand, it reveals a reality already pointed out by many studies on sex, that men have plastic, flexible sexuality that dissolves homo-hetero labels. Another relevant point is the one that refers to masculinity since it shows that gender expression is a social construction, in which characteristics enter and leave according to the moment and place. For the g0ys, eroticism with a boy, within their norms, is a totally masculine and virile act. Equally interesting is the polyamorous side of the g0y since he loves his wife and also his buddy.
We have, therefore, a self-defined MAN, with girlfriend or wife, who likes males, but who does not identify with traditional categories, gay or bi, since they carry a series of characteristics for which he feels a deep rejection, and that coincide with those socially attributed to homosexual men, effeminacy, anal sex, new family models, promiscuity, disease transmission. This man is very clear about his role in society and what his obligations, work, and family are among other aspects, although, as it happened millennia ago, he aspires to have that “companion of arms” to take care of him and to care for, to tell him the greatest intimacies, in a masculine, loyal and faithful environment. A woman, a partner, without being excluded, cannot provide these things.
Thus we have a new label, a recent category of man, which serves them to identify, group, and search. The problem is that, differently from what has happened and occurs with the other non-heteronormative sexualities, all of them under the LGBT + collective, the g0y distinguishes and differentiates himself by criticizing and rejecting the others using a false and outdated argument, which fully coincides with that of homophobia.
The g0y wants his fit in society and has been self-modeled in his image and likeness. He is attracted to some men, although, Hey! I am not effeminate, I am not promiscuous, I do not practice disgusting anal sex, I do not spread diseases. I am looking for and, I have emotional and erotic relationships with males, but without being the horrible person that the gay man is. Besides, there have always been boys like that, masculine, honest, loyal, faithful, discreet, attractive, who has remained hidden since the end of classical Greece. I am not that gay whom you despise and I despise too, I am the same as you, and many like you, end up being like me.
As gay I am, I see a guy who wants to have sex with both sexes, perfect; the one who dislikes anal intercourse either top or bottom, okay; who is masculine, who likes masculinity and masculine boys, well; with a romantic vision of classical Greece, liking fraternity and camaraderie, interesting; that not only seeks sex, but a relation of friendship at the same level as love, and if it could last a lifetime, magnificent!; who likes healthy, self-cared men, fat-free, gym bodies, great! Hurray and more hurray for you! But for this you want you do not need to attack gays or foment the negative vision that society has of us, that will not help you get a social acceptance or your place in the world.
The people who define ourselves as gay, are men who feel an emotional and erotic inclination for people of our same gender. End of story. Within this category, there is great variability of expressions, attitudes, and behaviors, all good and wonderful, among which we can choose the one we like the most in each moment. The LGBT + community defends and protects sexual diversity, and for this, does not need to criticize anyone’s sexuality or rely on traditional hoaxes and false ideas. The LGBT + collective values the difference and with the g0ys I remember, in spite of the apparent differences, the Mattachine Society, which defended the rights of homosexual men and women from heteronormative mimicry. Nor did they convince homophobic societies or the people involved.
G0ys men of the world, you want to claim different masculinity to be accepted in a society that is heteronormative and, therefore, will never accept you. For this society, you can end up being cocksuckers, unfaithful to your wives. Or be that type of man to prevent, because of the logical massage on the thigh of the gym partner you tend to try to massage the cock of others, usually after a night of partying and with some extra alcohol. All that ideology that you have endowed with, will not help you when you are the talk of the gym, the neighborhood, or the university, being the object of criticism and mockery of those who understand that the different is not good. G0y man, call yourself what you want, but bear in mind that the fight for sexual diversity unites us all.
Reference Webs: · G0ys.org · The man2man alliance · Hetero g0y Bars and private parties: · Confraria Heterogoy · GØY House Facebook groups and pages: · G0y Guys Page · The Frot Connection · Frot Brotha (OUTERCOURSE) · G0y Philosophy